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February 22, 2004
The Dating "Game" 3
So ok I need to hurry this up.
We both go to Florida and sparks fly from the first day.
My hope was to lead music with her again or be on the same project but neither happened.
I actually had to call her with no other pretended objective then to see how she was doing. That was scary!
So over the span of the summer we spent days off together and talked after LT sessions. All within the confines of a friendship and group activities. All the while I became more and more convinced that she was the one for me.
So I prayed about it. A lot. Then I prayed about it some more.
I got council.
Matt knew about it first.
I think that Adam O got the call next.
I told Tim and Doug before I went down.
Cliff knew about it from the beginning of the summer.
I called back Tim.
I reconvened with Matt at Staff Training.
I talked to both my parents.
I talked to my sister.
I talked to Doug when he came down for a weekend.
Through my Dad I got two of her pastors counsel.
That makes about 10 people including 4 pastors.
They gave me a green light. And she didn't know that I had any feelings for her.
I prayed some more. I put together six pages of bible verses on what God has to say about marriage, not getting married, and my vision for the future.
So on July 22nd I took her out to Friendly's for ice cream and a talk.
I asked her if I could start a more serious relationship with her. I called it courting. I said that if God continued to lead that the relationship would lead to marriage. And to my surprise she didn't even say well I'll think and pray about it.
She just said yes.
That was 7 months ago today.
We have disagreed. We have miss-communicated. We have apologized.
On Dec 23rd I asked her to marry me in the bitter cold of downtown Minneapolis.
She just said yes. (And had to remind me to put the ring on her finger)
Since then we have been planning the wedding.
We still haven't had a fight. And I think that we have a very healthy relationship based on our mutual desire for God, common interests, a shared (weird) sense of humor, and physical attraction. (I think she's hot)
So what do you think? I know there are a lot of conflicting theories out there. This is just my story of what worked for me. The bible doesn’t set down a specific way of doing this so there is wiggle room. What do you think will work for you?
Posted by paul at February 22, 2004 03:45 PM
Comments
Sparks Fly is a great song by David Crowder.
Posted by: Matt at February 22, 2004 05:50 PM
That is a great story paul. I am so happy for you.
However, I hope to God I don't go through that process. ;-)
Posted by: Adam at February 23, 2004 11:55 AM
"Sparks Are Gonna Fly" by Catherine Wheel is a great song. I think the council of 6 people and 4 pastors might be overkill, but not everyone has so many connections, so I guess go with what works.
Posted by: Pat at February 23, 2004 04:31 PM